LOVE AND RESPONSIBILITY

LOVE AND RESPONSIBILITY

Dave: Mikhail, What you are doing?

Mikhail: I am trying to relate Love and responsibility.

Dave:

What a co-incidence. Yesterday sasha told me that I don’t think she is important to me and if she was, then I would give her my time and love. She made me feel as if I should be responsible towards her. So what are you writing about Responsibility. Can I read? Dave reads. And Mikhail has written:

We are assuming here that Responsibility is something that Man repels or dislikes to suit this deduction.

(We don’t have fight this assumption too hard, history of this world is enough to observe that Man does not like Responsibility or fulfils it out of ‘compulsion’. Thus here, I wish to prove something very ordinarily fascinating: Love means responsibility)

WHAT HAS TO BE PROVED----------------> LOVE IS RESPONSIBILITY.

IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE YOU HAVE TO RESPONSIBLE ABOUT THAT LOVE AND IN SHOWING RESPONSIBILITY IS LOVE SHOWN.

We start with a reference point. This reference point is priorities. We all know that priorities help us to better understand and value our time. If we have a vision, like Responsibility, Vision too has to guide our goals. If someone calls us to play and our vision is to be a good student, then our vision should prioritize our goals and thus vision should guide our decision to yield to the offer or continue studying. Thus I have chosen Priority as a starting point.

1) Responsibilities becomes easier with priorities

Why do we have priorities?

Because you learn to discern between Love and self-indulgence¹

(To love others is to be ready for others, to offer your time, your life and energy. To love oneself is self indulgence. )

Thus Responsibility becomes easy with priorities and priorities navigate by Love

2) Responsibility thus, becomes easier with Love.

How?

3) As Love has higher priority.

How is Responsibility getting easier just because Love has higher priority?

We are first stating that Responsibility becomes easier with Love. If they are directly proportional it means Love has higher priority. How do we determine that giving Love higher priority is easing Responsibility? Priority always culminates into a trade-off. If you give priority to play-time, the trade off is low grades. Thus giving love higher priority is easing responsibility because the trade-off here is that your self-indulgences (what priority tries to find love and separate from) are more tamed.

You are not allowing self- indulgence to be an obstacle as you wish to give priority to love.

What is exactly happening that by giving priority to love, Responsibility is getting easier?

For one, there is no obstacle by self-indulgence. Second, giving Love priority is hailing Responsibility as supreme as only in Responsibility can Man be fruitful essentially to others more than himself. Even self-indulgence can be fruitful to oneself but Man wishes to be fruitful to others.

Why do you wish to be more fruitful, especially to others (as to oneself, is self-indulgence)?

The minute, Man wishes to be more fruitful (to others) as a pursuit, he does it because he wishes to love.

So what have we got?

Responsibilities becomes easier with priorities (from 1)

Responsibility thus, becomes easier with Love. (from 2)

As Love has higher priority (from 3)

Giving Love priority is hailing Responsibility as supreme as only in Responsibility can Man be fruitful

Man wishes to be more fruitful as a pursuit, he does it because he wishes to love

RESPONSIBILITY->easier with Love->Love so that responsibility is desired-> Desired as Man can be more fruitful->fruitful because Man WISHES TO LOVE.

Thus Responsibility is Love.

When you are responsible of someone, it shows you love them. If you love them then, you should be responsible about them. Thus you can be responsible about something and yet not love it (e.g. Job but it won’t get ‘easier’ from above explanation) but you cannot escape responsibility if you love someone.

You will observe some of the most responsible jobs are not perhaps being the president of a country or a nuclear scientist. It is being a mother or a father. Governments fall and nuclear warheads are stolen and sold. But when a mother nurses and cares for a child, we say it is her responsibility. The word responsibility has a ‘work’ connotation. Responsibility involves work and lazy Man does not like work or at least prefers less work for more, more comfort to more adjustment, good sleep to less sleep.

We forget that a Mother loves. When she loves she fulfils her responsibility out of love. When she fulfills her responsibility out of love, she enjoys the responsibility and in this, Responsibility loses its ‘uneasy’ and discomforting connotation. Time and again, People have said, like the

Beatles –ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE.

The Bible-

· I may be able to speak the languages of human beings and even of angels, but if I have no love, my speech is no more than a noisy gong or a clanging bell. I may have the gift of inspired preaching; I may have all knowledge and understand all secrets; I may have the faith needed to move mountains-but if I have no love, I am nothing. I may give away everything I have, and even give up my body to be burned-but if I have no love, this does me no good.

~1 Corinthians 13:1-13

· Above all else, guard thy heart for it is the wellspring of life.

~Proverbs 4:23

· Many waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it.
~Song of Solomon 8:7

• Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.
  ~Corinthians 13:7-8
  

• Let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth.
  ~1 John 3:18
  

• Love is patient, love is kind.
  It does not envy.
  Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude;
  It is not self-seeking, nor easily angered.
  It keeps no record of wrongdoing.
  It does not delight in evil,
  But rejoices in the truth.
  It always protects, trusts, hopes, and preserves.
  There is nothing love cannot face;
  There is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance.
  In a word, there are three things that last forever:
  Faith, hope, and love;
  But the greatest of them all is love.

~1 Corinthians 13:4-7

A father in his busyness thinks it trouble that his son’s grades are slipping and he is busy with meetings and clients. But he takes up his son’s studies. Now he may do it because he knows his son’s grades is his responsibility. His son is his responsibility.

But responsibility is an objective truth. It is like running someone down your car and now you are responsible for the treatment of the victim for his injuries. Responsibility is objective in nature. How would responsibility look if it had a face? What would responsibility be if it was personified? How can the father fulfill his responsibility well whether his sons’ grades improve or not? It is by love. The subjective truth of Responsibility is Love. Love is responsibility personified. God is love. That is why the Bible also says:

1 John 4:8

Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.

So the next time anyone tells you “it’s your responsibility”. The next time anyone says “you say you love me but you have no time for me” or you wonder, “Who are the people I love and how do I show and do it?” Think only responsibility. And not responsibility by sweating it out forcibly let Love guide it. Let love be responsibility